Aaron is intelligent, diverse in his conversations and remarkable in his speech. He knows just about everyone. His sense of confidence follows him in the room and shows in the way he dresses. Aaron is the new Patrick Dempsey maybe with a little less McDreamy. He is connected and it is by no accident. He is sincere and is comfortable in who he is. Aaron is a good friend.This all started when we were in college. Things happened in the usual way and life was fun and full of new adventures. For most of us, when the time came to invite a young lady to spring formal or fall festival, we squirmed around and fretted over who to ask until we finally found ourselves in that awkward moment as we stumbled over our words and managed to get a date. But not Aaron. He was the first to have a date and she was always the hottest girl on campus...although he never managed to go out with the dark-haired freshman goddess. His success in landing these dates was flawless and became the talking point of many occasions. Today not much has changed except perhaps for the increased sense of respect that we all hold for Aaron. His approach seems effortless and his poise is charismatic. He is the envy of us all and we are left wondering...what is his secret?
We asked Aaron recently what force drove him to walk up to a young lady and strike up a conversation like he had been building up the nerve to do it all evening long. His answer was simple...fear. Fear is what motivates him to step out on the line, to face rejection, and to savor the successes. But it is not the fear of stepping out there; rather, it is the fear of never knowing. It is the fear of never meeting that person who, for a moment, has captured your attention and caused your heart to race. It is in that moment, Aaron says, when he asks himself which of the two fears is greater. Even now, as I sit here and think about that cute girl, I am recounting all the reasons why I should not ask her out. If only I could learn to fear the fear. I think Aaron has taught us all a valuable lesson in life, whether it be in love or business. Seize the moment and aim for greatness. Otherwise, you will just be left wondering...what if?
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I envy this man and his "fear".
so ask her already. It could be said that she sits and watches you and looks to see how you handle the fear. That's a life lesson I'm reminded of...it's not the situation, but rather how you handle the situation... how you react to it. Life is going to throw you curves, present opportunities to overcome fear, but the real question is how you deal with it. I had some success int eh dating world by making it a practice to only go out with someone who has the courage to overcome 'the fear' as you say. For me, it's a measure of someone's character,teh character I know I will need to match who I am. It may not work for all, but for me it works. It goes along with my 'Rules of Dating' - I have 3...what would yours be?
Oh, I get it! The "T" in "brilliant" becomes the "T" in "thoughts". Oh, Billy you cleverascal you! BTW, where is the August and September sections - I can't find them?
I dont respect this guy's fear. It seems to me his fear was that he might have to settle for the second hottest girl. I have more respect for those guys who have been knocked down so many times they don't know if they can get up the next time, but yet they do. Those guys know real fear.
that is a "brilliant" way of thinking of things... i was always the one who feared what might be... i see the wisdom in fearing what might not be... we need a healthy respect for both fears... to put new perspective on it, perhaps we shouldn't fear falling as much as we fear NOT FLYING...
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